When you feel discouraged and beat down

I know, I know, Probably the most overplayed tittle that could be used, but it's true and I'm not going to lie to you all, I am writing this post with feelings that I'm not good enough and luck can't be on my side not even for once. 

We've all had the things that we desired the most so close that we could taste it, we plan for this thing to happen and then BOOM.  it happens the unprecedented "f*** you" that the world gives you and pushes you down like a bull giving a beat down. 

It's always good to move forward though and try again right but what if it is a once in a life time opportunity that you have been wanting to do for your whole pre-teen, teenage and semi- adult life and if this doesn't fall through nothing will go right in your life. 

Yeah, I guess you can tell, that's how I feel right about now, I guess writing this post is helping me to release my frustrations but can I move on from this let down. 

I know, this is not my normal post but when I write I try to keep my mind open and focused on my message, I believe that we are all entitled to a bad day, even a week. So bare with me guys. 

Okay, so what I'm trying to say is even though we feel discouraged ( I'll try to take this advice to heart) to push forward because only you can control what happens to you, even if life grabs you by the throat and has you in a permanent choke hold, gather yourself, breathe and push for what you want, even if you can't go to the once in a lifetime experience it's okay because you can still achieve greatness. 

Alright, so you don't have to listen to the discouraged character writing this post but I sure hope you do. 

Thanks 

Maddie

An apology or a realization?

I might have gone a bit overboard last night but does my rant exclude that we voted for a man that is not great for this country. We the People are outraged many of us have fled ship, and a lot are staying to fight and protest this man's leadership. I am with that vote #Not My President. I will not apologize; it has been a realization that some of the things that I have said on other social media sites and my previous blog or not me but I like to be justified in the future that I want for my son. I'm with the majority that is parents and do not want their children growing up in a corrupt world, where Morals are a thing of the past.  In the future our pride has been a thing of the  past and prejudiced still resides

I am going to finish up this rant and apology to both myself and my readers because the "America" problems are covered elsewhere, and the rant of one mom to the few readers that she has doesn't mean diddly squat. I would love to be apart of the majority that changes our future outcome, but one voice can only do so much alone. United we stand out.

I also want to offer a word of advisement that no matter what the following months hold for our country be real to you, and the things that you love, we have the privilege of being free unlike a lot of the third world. Show your kids the truth do not shield them, they need to know both the darkness and the light that shines in their futures and Please love! accept everything and everyone before it's too late. Stop. Breath and know that we may not be long for this world so take every moment in retrospect and enjoy the day.



Thank you,
Maddie

Keeping it real. Election night 2016

 I normally do not do this and brown nose by the way to such a descion, but I have because it shakes me to the core this election so here we are and here we go..

Why America, why would you allow these two candidates to come this far, couldn't we have found someone not only more qualified but with better interests in We the People or is that almost nonexistent in ourselves anymore .
We are ripping out our freedom from the seems to choose sides and becoming hostile to others who DO NOT SUPPORT OUR BELIEFS. I'm not saying that the election is a bad thing, of course not that's our right to vote and choose a leader that can take us into the future without plunging into war.

But how? I am scratching my head after all the candidates have done Via sexual assault or sending criminal emails can we trust either of them? Because I don't. I don't care about their "accomplishments" I want someone I can trust to bring our people to a great victory.


Picture this, What are we doing? Have we lost our damn minds? And we thought Obama was bad seriously he's better than the jokes that we are voting for.
I as a mom want a world that my son can grow up and not be ridiculed by the "aggrivated" attitudes of his PEERS.
It's terrifying that the rest of the world for instance Jersulam is praying for our salvation today because THEY know that we have completely lost it. We are aware that they are not fit to be president like I said before. We will not be safe if either Clinton or Trump become our president. Screw having the first lady how about someone that cares, A person that possesses the drive and has our complete trust and led us into the light like Ronald Reagan once did? Surely someone like that is out there. We have already been told by foreign government and terrorist groups that war will begin. I can see that if we do not go to war with a terrorist nation, we will start a war amongst ourselves and all I can say is God help us, and I hope that he has a salvation to save us. We need a hail mary whether you agree or not.

My readers,
I'm sorry If I offended you but I'm not sugar coating what needs to be said because this election has made a Mockery of us as We the People.

#Iwontvote.
#GivemesomeoneIcantrust.

Thanks,
Maddie

Unresolved.

We all have those feelings towards individuals in our past that we were told to forgive and on some weird unconscious level we did but then reality hits us and we realise that we did not.

The desire to look back onto our past and hate everyone who has hurt us in one-way shape or form. Did you know this is common?
That we all have some unresolved issue with at least one person in our lives whether it's the lover that did you dirty or the parent who never really cared.

(The advice I'm about to give, I need to take to heart as well)
I've been hurt and I mean who hasn't but I can not forgive those who have left a dent in my heart, like a small unstitch able tear and yeah it takes a huge level of maturity to forgive and maybe ( well a lot of us aren't there yet) but here's the advice.

Life is too short to be dwelling on those who have done us dirty because in truth that person has issues JUST LIKE WE DO and their issues could have been portrayed by hurting us.  It's a vicious cycle that we life in humans are manipulative and even when we think that we are helping, in turn, we offer some sort of let down to someone that is around us.


So no I'm not saying forgive but to forget, You know the song that goes "Forget your troubles, come on be happy" That exact lyric is my advice to all of you. Nxt time you are hurt, sing it to yourself and laugh, just laugh about it. you'll find that these troubles aren't really what we make them out to be.

Thanks <3
Maddye

Who needs friends?

When we think about our friends and the comfort that we receive one person or two  comes to mind right?

Ah, yes, Well this is because as humans we have a natural knack for needing compassion and our unconscious takes control making us unaware of the search. This is why we feel a sense of fulfillment when we find the one or have company at our homes.

We are truly creatures of need, social need. If your like me and have realized that this is one of the main things that keep us from going "crazy" because we have people around us to guide and talk and show affection towards us. Take our family and friends out of the equation and we are alone and we begin to feel lonely and have thoughts of self doubt and feel unwanted.
That is when we truly go "crazy" and mental illness can form.

In all reality that is why people like me who has a limited number of friends those of who live states away, have cats because I need companionship, aside from my two year old son who would rather draw on the wall then hold a conversation with his mom.

Anyway to the point, being sociable is important and a part of life not only for maintaining your health but navigating around. So when I say Who needs friends I mean every one every where because we as humans crave and live off interaction and attention its primal. Don't get me wrong friends are important but having the right ones are what counts.

So no, while friendship is important it doesn't include Mr. popularity with adoring fans. it includes compassionate relations with someone who knows you and understands you fully. Not someone interested in your high school ranking.


Think about that
-Maddie

Hurt.

Oh, what can I say about this? I could rant and rage on about the sick and sadistic people that we have to co- exist with in this life. Yes, I could speak my mind and lash out on all those who are nasty but instead I'm going to stay reserved and write a post that readers will understand.

There are a lot of down right dirty people in this world, murders, rapists, pedophiles, backstabbers, manipulators and even bullies make the list because teenagers and even young adults have fallen to suicide all because some person thought that it would be fun to target the weak among them. What have we as a human existence become that we become killers and torture each other in ways that are unbearable. It turns my stomach because we were once a race of peace and had no mind to violence or the judgements of what's on the outside or the color of our skin. Even a sexual preferences. What makes us turn to the unpure and the hate in us. Is it too much to believe that we all can co- exist side by side no mind to looks or "accents" or personality and the matter of which we do things.

What is wrong with us. That we feel the need to fight and lash out if things go wrong? or manipulate others so we can feel better about ourselves because we don't get all the guy's like the girl next door.
Why even have to classify humans into category of who's who? Nerdy, dorky, jockey, beautiful? What is all that?
 I just don't understand how we were created in an image of love but have evolved into a world of hate. Christan's believe that it is the work of the devil and I happen to believe them.

So next time you think of being mean to someone or anything that shouldn't be taking place that you don't feel is right. Step up, have a voice and make a change.

We only have one life to live and would you want it to be filled with dirty UN natural things like violence and hatred???


thanks, Maddie

Family.

While searching for a definition of family I came across a few that seemed rather factual:
Family:
- a group consisting of parents and children living together in a household.

• a group of people related to one another by blood or marriage:
  "friends and family can provide support"

Both of these can be found on google but while searching I noticed on the second definition there is a statement "friends and family can provide support"

Which brings me to the topic of family, In no mention friends were not considered family, as that may have been true in the past. Today, we view those who SUPPORT us as family that can include blood family, friends and even those who are educators and have acted as an anchor to individuals.

Family should not be defined as a group of people living In a house together, or of blood or marriage but of the relationships that are developed with others.

I'm sure that more than 80%  of the world's population views friends and those who have provided support to us that we have formed some kind of bond with is our family.

The term should not be used to define those of blood, but of those with connection and unity to one another.

I've heard and read many articles and stories of heartache from people because their "blood" family left them or mistreated them in someway and they were in disbelief because it's not a normal thought that relatives would screw you over. But that is the sad cruel world we live in and is why many of us take comfort and warmth from friends and those who support us in the long run. They should be called family just as much as a brother, sister, mother or father.

I hope that this offers some outlook into the role of support that can come from those around us.

Thank you

<3

Acceptance.

What do you think about when you hear the word acceptance? Does your mind automatically jump to the conclusion of accepting different races, nationalities, religions or even sexual preference?

No, I'm talking about a much broader outlook on the term, the acceptance of us and others around us,  even situations that we can't control. I personally like to help even when I'm not asked and accepting the things that we can't control at face value can be a challenge for all of us.

In life, we are told to do this or to be that way and are molded by our parents to be either in their image in the image that sets us for the life that they want us to have. While we have to give them praise for trying because as a parent myself my own desire is that my kids always strive for greatness and never have to settle for anything less than the heights they hold themselves to. But, only we can give ourselves credit, we chose who we want to be, and what we want to do, our parents might be the sculptures but our expressions and personal drive are what fuels us into who we are.  Accepting ourselves for who we are is a major step in life and of that only we can bring ourselves to love ourselves. Sure, we have friends, peers, and our families to help guide our paths but at the end of the day, every decision that we make is ours. As we enter early adulthood from our teenage years we start to discover ourselves and who we want to be, but let me assure you that is a continued process even though our late years because as individuals we constantly expand our horizons and our personal meanings. So when we accept ourselves for every aspect that makes us happy we have to take into consideration that with the acceptance we must value the change in life. Whether that change brings us into a deeper mature version of ourselves or takes us down a path that expands our sense of self, change is not always a bad thing with a  one-eyed view. Accepting not only who we are, as people is great but having that deeper understanding and accepting others is brilliant. It does not matter who the person is or their backgrounds it should only matter about who that person is today, who do they strive to be in their future. I've seen so much hate and dislike, yes, usual racism because of a fear, a fear of what? I'll tell you humans are scared of what they do not know, the unknown is like stepping into freezing cold water. It;s an internalized fear that guess what you can get over, but the populace fuels the hate and the hate stirs war and violence because the color of one's skin is seen as just that, a color, it is not inspected for the story it tells, a face is not categorized by the number of laugh lines present showing the livelihood that a person has lived. It doesn't examine to show the happiness, the pain. It doesn't inspect the scars from the past that have led to that person's future.Instead.. I'll tell you it is blinded by the color, the color that is designed beautifully not to be discriminated but to take the meaning of beauty and expand it beyond any horizon. Simple minds lead to simple judgments and those judgments do not allow acceptance
Think about it.


Thanks,
Maddie

Life and death.

I've recently come to the conclusion that we are either chasing the thrill of live or the slow pull of death. There is no in-between and the saying live life to the fullest seems to make more sense. Why can't we find a middle option, one that gives us hope of eternal life and in religion salvation. What is it that we all seek but the desires within our hearts. To be something greater than we are, the pull that drives us to want success and material things. To some living life means to have a successful career, a family, kids and to others it means taking a different approach and experiencing the wonders of the world and what it has to offer. Does that mean we are searching for an inner peace, one that can only be obtain by fulfilling some kind of obligation by making ourselves into someone of remembrance? 

I know that many of our dreams are handed down and are taught as what we are suppose to do with our lives. But what if that wasn't originally in the grand scheme of things that we are not suppose to change some desire but to nurture the world and one another. Instead of letting our personal wants and selfishness guide our decisions. Letting instinct and the care for others guide our decisions. The world would be a different place and people wouldn't be consumed with fashion trends or new technology but to see mankind continue and not destroy our home like we have done for years. 

If we opened our minds to the problems of others and mother nature who is clearly screaming at us silently we can provide a better place and a kinder place to exist in. 

Thanks, 

Madyson. 

Finding ourselves.

It's not about the soul search or the values that each of us have but the our own truths and our personal beliefs about things that define who we truly are. We grow as people constantly, are we able to truly find ourselves or in the grand scheme of things are we supposed to continue growing in some way until we die.

I know questions and more questions but if we truly step away and take a look at us as individuals can we say that we are truly happy that there isn't one aspect of ourselves that we desire to change. Now I'm not talking about parts of our lives but our personalities and the way that we go about things. I'm almost 98 percent sure that all of us have some part of us that we could change. For instances attitudes or our undeniable way we all judge others in one way or another. 

I personally believe that we all are born and grow to have imperfections in all of us because it makes things more interesting. Think about it. 

If everyone on the planet were perfect 100 percent with no flaws how would emotions like love come into play, How could you love someone that was exactly like you. I'm sorry but I couldn't i need spice in my life. The world would be a boring place. No opinions. nothing. Yuck how bland that would be.
So that brings me to this.
That we are all imperfectly perfect and have a unique blend of personality for a reason, it makes life more fun. When of course were not breathing down each others necks wanting to kill each other.
If we could except all the different personalities and cultures in the world. We would expand our minds into different ways of thinking and growing and could actually have a better understanding of things and could incorporate these different cultures and values into ourselves.

Just a thought....

Yours, truly
Madyson. 

Hassles.

I recently started college, studying psychology what amazed me was this course I took about the stressors in our everyday lives no matter how big or small. Our stress can be caused from something not going the way we intended it to, to even bigger issues like not meeting quotas at work.
Upon working through the course I realized that as humans we stress way to much over things that we shouldn't and that stress is a leading cause of mental illness, panic attacks and the most common is anxiety.
I myself suffer from anxiety. It is a big obstacle that can lead to big stressors over simple things.
Now, I know that there are many things in this life to stress about but imagine if we all took the time out and used techniques to help manage our stress. I.e. Woman use bubble baths to "wash away" the stress. some men use exercise as a way to "sweat it out".
Though, there are more effective methods that we can take like breathing techniques and management of our schedules. Penciling in some "alone" time can help with whatever hectic schedule you have. As for the small stressors, If you feel like you are going to pull your hair out because something take a step back and laugh about it. As we all know laughing is healthy for us.
Also, I wanted to mentioned one of the other students in the course mentioned that they thought that stress was apart of our genetic makeup and as we grow up and realize the complicated things around us that this factor kicks In.  By the way it seems I have to agree with them can we think of a time when we first started stressing out. Might have been in our pre teen stages when middle school rolled around and we were concerned with making friends and fitting in and the guys worrying if their crush liked them. This was also the time when what grades we made really started to matter and things seemed to get worse and worse and the responsibilities kicked in. We then realized that we were not these small carefree kids anymore but really young "almost" adults, with descions of our own to make.
In a scientific perspective- Stress really boils down to the biological and environment influences that peg us each and everyday.

So my advice next time the stress gets to be too much, relax don't over do things and find a distraction from the current obstacle that causes the stress.

Thanks
Maddy